15 Questons for Couples

RELEASING THE PAIN AT THE SOURCE

15 Questions for Couple's Counselling

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ABOUT YOUR PARTNER: 1. When your partner is stressed or upset, what do they do or say that makes the situation feel worse for you?

2. What thoughts or beliefs does your partner seem to hold about you or your relationship that feel unfair or inaccurate?

3. When you're trying to communicate something important, what does your partner do that makes you feel unheard or misunderstood?

4. What emotional reactions from your partner (anger, withdrawal, defensiveness, etc.) are hardest for you to handle, and why?

5.What behaviors does your partner repeat that you've asked them to change, but they continue doing?

6. When your partner is making decisions (big or small), what about their thought process or approach frustrates you most?

7. What does your partner do when they're hurt or disappointed that pushes you away instead of drawing you closer?

8. What assumptions does your partner make about your intentions that create unnecessary conflict between you?

9. When you're having a disagreement, what does your partner say or do that escalates the situation rather than resolving it?

10. What aspect of how your partner expresses love, affection, or care doesn't feel genuine or sufficient to you?

11. What qualities, strengths, or behaviors in your partner do you genuinely admire and appreciate, even during difficult times in your relationship?

ABOUT YOU: 12. What do you do when you're feeling hurt, angry, or frustrated that probably makes things harder for your partner and pushes them away from you?

13. What thoughts or judgments do you have about your partner's character, intentions, or capabilities that you know aren't entirely fair, but you hold onto anyway?

14. When conflicts arise, what is your go-to response or behavior that you recognize makes resolution more difficult, even though you continue doing it?

15.What specific behavior or pattern do you stubbornly hold onto (perhaps because it feels justified or protective) that you suspect creates more tension and distance between you and your partner?